Exploring personal transformations

Going through a personal transformation can feel like a profound, internal shift in how you think, act, and view yourself, it isn’t just about changing external habits. It replaces previous limiting beliefs with new, empowering ways of being and seeing the world.

It’s important to realise that personal transformation is a continual process, and as difficult as our struggles may be, they help us evolve in several significant ways. The danger therefore is thinking that after you’ve gone through one, that’s it, you’re done. It’s cyclic in its nature and the transformations, big or small, will continue. Why?

Personal Transformation Results in New Versions of Yourself

The broader concept of personal transformation is multi-dimensional and results in a new version of yourself each time you transform. When I say ‘new version’ this isn’t something new in a literal sense, it’s a version of you that is emerging as you to the inner-work.

What you might experience, realistically is this: there will be periods of stability when you are living the life that you have created and you maybe reach a plateau, and then the stable periods are followed by transition periods when decisions or circumstances drive you to a new way of being in one or more dimensions..

When old identities no longer fit you may experience:

• feeling lost, have conflicting feeling arise, feeling uncertain

• outgrowing relationships, you can’t connect with certain people the way you used to

• deep persistent discomfort, old ways of locking something down or shutting something off will arise. You’re being pushed to try something different.

• sense of feeling restless but can’t put your finger on why

• start questioning long-held beliefs

• develop new areas of interests & desires

• let go of older versions of yourself as they no longer resonate

• have an intolerance for inauthenticity and/or a sensitivity to bullshit!

Before a breakthrough?

I feel like this stage isn’t talked about enough. It’s knocked me back time and time again. Right before a significant breakthrough, you will face one of your biggest challenges and that’s when it feels the hardest. What’s likely to come up is intense resistance, and I mean INTENSE. If you can see it through, stay calm, write it out, shout it out, move it through, then you will come out the other side. This happens because you a shedding a part of your old identity/ego that REALLY DOES NOT WANT TO GO. It’ll fight for it’s place to stay with you.

What can you do to combat intense resistance?

Just notice when it does feel intense. Try talking to a friend, writing it out, moving it through in some way, this will help. The other thing that might sound counterintuitive is to talk to that part of yourself. Acknowledge the fear there, reassure or insist, depending on what comes up for you.

• reassure - for some people, offering reassurance that this is a good and welcomed change for the better, you’ve done your job keeping me safe and I am grateful.

• insist - if the feeling is very intense, you might have to power through with full assertion. This is my choice, I am choosing this for myself now.

This might sound/feel crazy to say out loud but never underestimate the power of intention and confident assertion. You are in the driving seat of your life, you call the shots, you make the decisions.

Signs and syncronicities come with personal transformations

Ever had a period of your life where you dreams feel intense, or you have more dejavu’s or you feel like you keep seeing the same things or hearing the same things that have a personal meaning and message for you? Are you:

• seeing recurring numbers

• experiencing meaningful coincidences

• having stronger gut feelings

• getting loads of ‘aha’ moments

• in tune more with the quieter voice within

• finding meaning in nature

• having dejavu experiences

• experiencing intense dreams or lucid dreaming

• seeing and hearing things repeat themselves 3 times or more

These can all accompany a transition because your consciousness and awareness is shifting. You are experiencing the world differently. This is when we notice more.

What can be some of the results once you’re out the other side:

• you set clear boundaries

• you’re less reactive, more responsive

• you care less about what others think

• you take accountability

• you ask bigger questions from a place of curiosity not fear

• you treat mistakes as lessons and opportunities to learn

• you start to create more of what you want in your life